As a Relationship Confidant, I frequently receive inquiries that may raise concerns for many people who are re-entering the dating world. One woman was upset because her husband didn't seem to care about important anniversary dates because of his memory loss. Additionally, she thought he wasn't being affectionate enough during the day and only seemed interested at night.
Please allow me to provide some clarification as a Guy Spy into the Male Mind. Guys have never thought like girls and they never will. They weren't made that way. They are set up to complement your wiring, not to be a carbon copy of it. They don't often show their emotions, certainly not as frequently as women would want. Don't assume that just because your girl friends do, he would share his most private thoughts and aspirations with you. Pushing for that outcome will stop the romance, and the fizzle will take the place of the sizzle.
Thus, how does a man interact with his wife? through deeds! Boys stand out in a gathering even as young kids because of the constant movement. Because of their propensity to activity, the girls in their lives paid them attention, showed them affection, and corrected them frequently. Understanding that they also express their love and affection through activities shouldn't come as a huge surprise. And as a result, kids will judge your love more by your actions than by your words.
For instance, some guys will know you love them if you make their favourite food. When you massage someone's feet without their permission, others could perceive your devotion. Some people may understand the depth of your love when they witness you defend him in a gathering of people who are engaging in a discourse about guys. Through their actions, they show and receive love; hence, the Action Hero. Through accomplishments and manoeuvres, they hope to guide, protect, repair, and relate.
Sadly, because they are waiting for words, women frequently miss the messages that their Action Hero is trying to get across. It's not too late if you realise this has been a pattern for you in the past. Let your burning love know how much it means to you when he does anything for you. Did he make you feel safe when he fixed the tyre? Did you feel relieved when he fixed the computer glitch? Did it make you feel special when he brought you out to dinner? Keep in mind his efforts to adore you. Recognise a man for who he is and the efforts he makes to win your heart. Concentrate on the positive.
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